There are five stages to grieving.

Denial, Anger, Bargaining, Depression and Acceptance.

I went through all of these in just two weeks after losing our first and I honor of accepting what had happened to us, I went in and got a tattoo.

I’m not going to lie and say that because I went through all these stages so quickly that I no longer have any pain or that it doesn’t haunt me anymore.

Because in reality, just because you have accepted something doesn’t mean you will no longer go through the other four stages anymore.

I have a daily fight with depression & anxiety, and because we lost our first they will just sky rocket as soon as we become pregnant again.

Now as the holidays roll to an end and all the Thanksgiving and Christmas pregnancies announcement have come out, next week we will have our New Years announcement and I thought I would share what I do to keep my self from breaking down.

Leave a comment. With every announcement I come across on my Facebook, Instagram or Mom Groups, I’ll leave a comment. A short little “Congrats Momma!” with the emoji with heart eyes and the cute little hearts. I don’t know half of them, but I do know that they are extremely excited and me being cranky or emotional won’t change a damn thing!

Look for the silver lining. With every announcement you come across, especially announcement by family. Look at them as ‘I’m receiving another bundle of joy in this world to help me prepare myself to become a mother and love unconditionally’.

Find your own peace. For me, I have learned that writing out my feelings and encounters are what’s helping me through my constant battles. You need to find what works best for you. Wether it’s reading a book, going for a run, cooking a new recipe you found on Pinterest, what ever it is… Do It!

Now, I know, I only gave three things to try and help with your grieving during these holidays but these three thing are what keep me going on the daily and I hope they can help you along your journey.

XO-Kaite